Ep. 58: The Penis Episode

February 28, 2017

The penis episode. Specifically, penile failures. There are many reasons why the penis won't act the way you want it to.

"I've been consuming poison and you're like 'you wanna have some sex?' Well yeah, that sounds good too. Let me just finish this poison, and let's, uh, get in bed."

Alcohol, smoking, anxiety, depression, and health are all reasons for penis dysfunction.

Jacob talks about how expectations and too much thinking can create problems staying hard.

The penis "is like a BIC lighter. You pull it out and just expect it work."

Sometimes, making sure the penis gets air to contrast the wet vagina can help it stay hard.

Health affects penis performance because an erection is blood flowing into the penis, and heart disease, inactivity, smoking, and diabetes can all inhibit blood flow.

No one really talks about this either, so relationships suffer from the lack of communication and hurt feelings.

When we didn't know how to talk about it, Chloé dealt with feelings of shame and humiliation thinking it was her fault.

Not talking about the underlying issue can also be damaging to the relationship because it leaves the other partner unable to know how to be compassionate and helpful.

Porn convolutes the whole thing. Because it confuses physical and mental stimulation.

There are definite identity issues that come up for men with penis problems, but there also issues that come up for women in that relationship. Because we are all taught to believe that erections and orgasms just kind of always happen for men. So when that's not the case, it can leave women questioning their value.

Swingers forums are much more honest and compassionate about how common it is. It'd be great if everyone were so open and honest.

The keys for us have been: trusting the other person enough to talk about how bad the situation makes us feel, and accepting the truth.

While the quality of sex isn't the only sign of a healthy relationship, it can point to other areas in life that could be affecting the relationship, like health, mental health, and alcohol or drugs.