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March 28, 2017
We read this article arguing against marriage, from a feminist perspective, and we each have some different perspectives on her argument.
There is an argument that marriage, with its base in patriarchy, still makes life worse for women because they have to play the mother role in the their marriage.
Chloe agrees on that point. She finds she, and most women she knows, end of taking care of more around the house. Jacob argues that it's more about "thresholds," and men have a higher thresholds for filth.
Chloe disagrees with the author regarding the difference between being married and living together without being married. The author argues that they are very different relationships, and Chloe disagrees.
Specifically in regards to sex, if you're looking at sex as an obligation, it's probably not going to be great, regardless of being married.
Marriage doesn't also mean giving up your own identity. While many women do give up their identities to their relationship, it doesn't have to be that way.
There was a study done in France that showed women who cheated on their husbands were more likely to cheat if their husbands did not help out around the house.
If your partner isn't getting the fact that you need help, you need to make sure you are asking clearly.
Jacob compares our marriage to that phone that catches on fire...you probably shouldn't buy it in case it does catch on fire, but ours works great, hasn't burned us.